We are friends. Good friends. Really.
Since we met one another on our first day of college orientation (we were both journalism majors) we hit it off, and have come to count on one another for advice when it came to many of life’s challenges — boys, which classes to take, which shoes to buy, which wedding dress to wear (obviously that advice about boys turned out OK!), which job offer to consider and so on.
But despite our affinity for one another and our appreciation for the advice we received from each other, when we became moms we were not alarmed or surprised to find that we often utilize different methods in raising our kids. With five children between us, ranging in age from toddler to pre-teen, we well know that every day parents make decisions — some major, some minor — and like snowflakes and ice cream sundaes, it would be impossible to find two people who agree on every minute detail (although if you don’t like hot fudge, you are dead to us).
Different people, different methods, different family dynamics. No big deal.
So we thought.
Because then we both started to blog for a popular parenting site and found a fair amount of moms (and dads too) who did think less of people who employed dissimilar techniques and strategies to parenting. We aren’t just talking your standard stay-at-home-moms vs. working-moms Mommy Wars, either. From the right age to introduce a sippy cup to whether or not professional photographs were necessary, these parents took great joy in attacking and criticizing their fellow mothers and fathers with a vengeance.
It was spiteful, hateful and most of all, silly. Because really, who cares if another mom doesn’t want to find out if she’s having a boy or a girl until the child is born? Should deciding to register for baby gear really earn you a vitriolic diatribe from a parent? Who knew that the decision to drive a minivan could inspire such animosity?
It’s enough to make you feel like you are back in high school all over again. But now that we’re moms, we should have a little more confidence under our belts and be able to look past those who are out to prove themselves right all the time. And that’s what We Are Both Right is all about.
Sometimes our views will be far apart. On other issues, they are almost in sync. But no matter where anyone stands, our goals are the same. We will do anything it takes to have happy and healthy children — because really, don’t all parents want the very same thing?